We have such great intentions. Eat well! Exercise!
But somehow, those good intentions sometimes fly out the window. Eat well! But that brownie looks so good. Exercise! But it’s more fun to watch TV.
Why do we trip up? Why can’t we follow through? Are we just weak people who can’t make up our mind?
Actually, we’re many different people, according to an article, “First Person Plural” by Paul Bloom in the November 2008 Atlantic (yes, you read that right, I’m a little behind).
According to Bloom, the reason why it often feels like we are at war with ourselves is because we are. Instead of a unified “I” who makes decisions and then acts on them, we have a multiplicity of selves who are constantly jostling. One self may say, “no more brownies!”, but another self may say, “ooo, but brownies are many kinds of awesomeness, and there is one right here.”
Drawing on the research of the psychiatrist George Ainslie, we can make sense of the interaction of these selves by plotting their relative strengths over time, starting with one (the cake eater) being weaker than the other (the dieter). For most of the day, the dieter hums along at his regular power (a 5 on a scale of 1 to 10, say), motivated by the long-term goal of weight loss, and is stronger than the cake eater (a 2). Your consciousness tracks whichever self is winning, so you are deciding not to eat the cake. But as you get closer and closer to the cake, the power of the cake eater rises (3 … 4 …), the lines cross, the cake eater takes over (6), and that becomes the conscious you; at this point, you decide to eat the cake. It’s as if a baton is passed from one self to another.
Furthermore, these selves may try to self-bind, meaning they try to prevent other selves from getting ahead by setting things up against them. For example, a healthy eating self might try to prevent the compulsive eater self from getting the upper hand by throwing away the brownies, or not walking by the bakery with brownies. If the healthy eating self is really sharp, it would probably refrain from writing or reading about brownies.
So if each of us is actually a multiplicity of selves, some thinking long-term and some thinking just as far as the brownie in front of us, how do we win? The answer is to do as much self-binding as we can. Make it hard for that brownie eater to get what it wants, and use productive self-talk to keep that long-term thinking self on top.
Does this kind of research help you stay focused?